From a very young age and through various, different channels, girls are made to believe that their appearance defines and validates who they are, and that it can determine the “level of success” they will achieve in this world. Trough television programs, movies, magazines, as well as their peers, they’ve been convinced that “beauty” guarantees acceptance and that “flaunting” will grant them the favour that they have come to deem so very necessary.
Sadly enough, this couldn’t be any further from the truth. Sometimes even Christian girls/women battle to separate themselves from the pressures of this world and to stand on the love and acceptance they have through Christ. You may be a Christian, but have to admit that these “worldly” ideas on dress and appearance have filtered through into your heart and mind. Please look with me again to see what the Bible teaches regarding these things:
The Bible says in Proverbs 31:30 that “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised”
First of all, we see that “beauty” (according to the world’s standard) is not important to the Lord. It is vain – empty, profits nothing. On the flip side, it can generate pride, jealousy, self-centeredness and keep our focus in the wrong place. The Bible says in 1 Peter 3:3″ Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. The focus of this verse is not that of prohibiting jewelry etc., but that of discouraging conspicuousness and encouraging meekness and modesty.
In 1 Timothy 2:9 the Bible also says: “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel…”. Here is a good definition of modesty I found on the net: “It is the quality of being free from vanity and boastfulness and also regard for decency of behavior, speech and dress.” Decent, modest clothing is important to the Lord! Perhaps you were under the common misconception before that decent, discreet clothing was just for “certain churches”, “certain age-groups,” “old-fashioned gals” or simply not that big a deal, but I hope you are starting to realize that this is not just a flippant idea!
So……Is modesty really that important?
Well, it is always important to obey the Word of God, but there is also a practical side to this and it is imperative for us to grab hold of it if we want to make the right “dress decisions”: We need to help men, especially our Christian brothers, to have pure, clean thoughts. They are on a battlefield ladies. Let us not ignite the fire of their lust. The Bible says in Matthew 5:28 “But whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hat committed adultery with her already in his heart”. One lady said ” God calls us to walk in this world as a candle among gunpowder” Sobering thought!!! Am I helping them to succeed morally, or am I a stumbling block?
We may get that confidence we think we want in our provocative clothes, but we need to realize that we are provoking men or another woman’s husband to lust after us and commit adultery in his heart. We may love the attention when all eyes are on us, but what we need to realize is that we may be arousing a man who tries to be faithful to his wife, especially in his thoughts. This world teaches us that if you’ve got it, flaunt it, and you’ll be praised for your looks! The Word of God teaches the opposite! We are to cover up! Some of the most beautiful and classy women I know are not those who expose their bodies, but those who dress decently. The Bible says that beauty is vain – it comes and goes, but a woman who feareth the Lord, she shall be praised! A God-fearing woman radiates inner beauty. She possesses kindness, patience, love and she is meek and gracious. Who doesn’t appreciate such a woman?
If you are a Christian who struggles with this, please consider again, that you’ve been bought with a price, the blood of Jesus Christ! Your body belongs to your Lord now. He is Lord over all, even your dress standard. You are no longer of the world, but now have a heavenly home. How are you representing your heavenly home? Romans 2:12 “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God”.
You may not feel loved and accepted by the world, but please consider that “while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” Romans 5:8 Before you did anything to gain acceptance, when you were just an unclean sinner, He already loved you……just as you were. I don’t know about you, but that is the kind of friend I want in my life!!
In all we do, let us do it as unto the Lord and not unto men. (Colossians 3:23)